I’ll fix it all. Just like before.
Anonymous said: My boyfriend just left my house, he left in a massive mood because I called myself fat again. we'd just had sex and everything was normal, then I got up to put my clothes on & so did he and I saw myself in the mirror and I look so bad, it's awful I've put weight on & I hate it. I don't see how I can get him to understand that I hate being the Way I am, and I can't change that. I've told him but he won't listen:( any thing you can think of to make him understand? (Sorry for this being so long) xx
This answer might seem super insensitive but I can only be honest. Of course our partners are supposed to be supportive, and understanding and all that. And maybe he has been, maybe not- idk. But there comes a point where your insecurities aren’t always your partner’s problem. Not only is it just annoying to constantly hear someone ragging on themselves, but it is super negative which is no bueno, and it’s just sad-like how do you think it makes him feel that this person he loves and is obviously attracted to feels this way and constantly mentions it? I have a friend who is constantlyyyyy picking herself apart and finally I was just like, “Jesus Christ stop talking about someone I love like that!!!” It made me feel shitty and there was nothing I could say to change her mind so it was pointless.
More importantly— if you’re really unhappy with any aspect of yourself, try to change it ! And luckily for you weight is a (relatively) easily changeable thing. I’m sure he’d be very supportive and would even join if you wanted to start working out more or eating differently. He wants you to he happy and confident- he’s prob not just being a jerk he just doesn’t know what to do. And honestly 98% of the time your opinion of yourself overrides what anyone else has to say. So instead of complaining, try to fix whatever the problem is. Positivity reaps positive changes :)) big kiss
I love this answer, I wish more people would think more positively about themselves and try to change the “bad”.